How often do we just go along with situations without checking in with how our body feels? Giving oneself permission to feel what works for oneself is self care, giving to self. It does not deprive the whole, for we are alread;y whole. If we are not allowed to care for ourselves in situations, that is a sign that is not a healthy environment.
I find that once I am clear of what works for me, maybe not do along with the group agreement, I have included my own accommodation in the equation instead of leaving myself out. Then the situation will either accept me or not, yet I know I have not abandoned myself. Which is an old pattern.
Welcome your whole self into your life, it has been waiting so patiently.
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